How Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Affects Daily Life

February 21, 2019

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition that deeply impacts how people manage their emotions, relationships, and everyday activities. It often creates challenges in school, work, family life, and social connections, making it hard for those affected to feel stable and in control. While emotional symptoms of BPD—like mood swings and impulsivity—are often discussed, this study focuses on how BPD affects a person’s ability to function in day-to-day life.

The researchers looked at individuals with BPD at different points in their lives, including those who had been managing the condition for several years. This allowed them to see how BPD affects people over time and whether improvements in symptoms lead to better functioning. They found that, even when emotional symptoms got better, many people still faced difficulties in their daily lives. This highlights the lasting impact of BPD on functioning and the need for tailored support.

Key Findings About Daily Life Challenges

1. Overall Functioning Is Often Poor

For most people with BPD, everyday life can feel like an uphill battle. The study found that only 23% of people with BPD managed to function well across all areas of life. This means they struggled to maintain stable jobs, complete their education, or build healthy relationships. In comparison, 53% of individuals in a non-BPD group were functioning well. This stark difference shows just how much BPD affects a person’s ability to live independently and achieve their goals.

The challenges aren’t limited to one specific area; instead, they affect multiple aspects of life. For example, someone might struggle to keep a job because of emotional instability, which then affects their ability to pay bills or feel confident in themselves. This creates a cycle of difficulties that can feel overwhelming.

2. Struggles in Education and Work

One of the biggest hurdles for people with BPD is succeeding in education and employment. These areas are critical because they provide the foundation for financial stability and personal growth. However, the study found that individuals with BPD often face major setbacks in both.

  • Education Challenges: Completing higher education is particularly difficult for people with BPD. Emotional instability and trouble focusing can make it hard to keep up with academic demands. For example, someone with BPD might experience intense stress over an upcoming exam, leading them to avoid studying or even drop out altogether. This can limit their opportunities for better jobs in the future, trapping them in a cycle of low-paying or unstable work.
  • Employment Struggles: Holding down a stable job is another significant challenge. Emotional outbursts, difficulty managing stress, and impulsive decisions can all make it hard to keep a job for long periods. For instance, a person with BPD might quit their job impulsively after a disagreement with a coworker, even if the job is otherwise a good fit. These struggles make it harder for individuals with BPD to build careers or feel financially secure.

3. Financial Independence Is Rare

Because of the challenges in education and work, many people with BPD struggle to achieve financial independence. The study found that most individuals with BPD rely on family members, friends, or government assistance to meet their basic needs. While this support can be helpful, it often comes with feelings of guilt or shame. People with BPD may feel like they are a burden on their loved ones, which can worsen their emotional struggles.

Financial instability also creates practical problems, such as difficulty paying for therapy, medications, or other resources that could help improve their quality of life. This can make it even harder to break the cycle of dependence and achieve greater independence.

4. Relationship Challenges

Relationships are one of the most challenging aspects of life for people with BPD. Emotional instability, fear of abandonment, and difficulty trusting others often lead to strained relationships with romantic partners, family members, and friends. These challenges can leave individuals with BPD feeling isolated and misunderstood.

  • Romantic Relationships: People with BPD often struggle to maintain long-term romantic relationships. Intense emotions, frequent arguments, and fear of being abandoned can push partners away. For example, someone with BPD might accuse their partner of wanting to leave them after a minor disagreement, creating tension in the relationship. Over time, this pattern can lead to repeated breakups and feelings of loneliness.
  • Family Relationships: Many people with BPD report difficult relationships with their parents or other family members. This could be due to unresolved conflicts, misunderstandings about the condition, or the stress of caregiving roles. For example, a parent might struggle to understand why their child with BPD reacts so strongly to small situations, leading to frustration on both sides.
  • Friendships as a Strength: Interestingly, friendships seem to be less affected by BPD compared to other types of relationships. The study found that many individuals with BPD were able to maintain meaningful friendships, which can be a valuable source of support. Friends who understand and accept the person’s struggles can provide stability and encouragement during difficult times.

How This Study Compares to Previous Research

This study builds on earlier research that highlighted the challenges of BPD but provides a deeper look at how specific areas of life are affected. For example, previous studies, such as those by Zanarini et al. (2011), showed that reducing symptoms like mood swings or impulsivity doesn’t always lead to better daily functioning. This means that even when therapy helps someone feel more emotionally stable, they may still struggle with work, education, or relationships.

The current study goes further by exploring why these gaps exist. It shows that BPD-specific symptoms—like emotional instability—can create long-lasting difficulties, even after symptoms improve. For example, someone who has struggled with unstable jobs for years might lack the skills or confidence to re-enter the workforce, even if their emotional health improves.

Another important finding is the emphasis on friendships as a strength. While earlier studies often focused on the negative aspects of BPD, this research highlights that individuals with BPD can maintain supportive friendships. This is an important reminder that people with BPD are not defined solely by their struggles; they also have areas of resilience that can be built upon.

Why This Matters

Understanding how BPD affects daily life is crucial for helping individuals with the condition. It’s not enough to focus on reducing emotional symptoms; support must also address the practical challenges people face in work, school, and relationships. For example:

  • Therapists and Counselors: By recognizing the specific challenges highlighted in this study, mental health professionals can create more targeted interventions. For instance, therapy could include practical skills for managing workplace stress or rebuilding strained family relationships.
  • Family and Friends: Loved ones can use this information to better understand what their family member or friend is going through. By focusing on strengths like friendships and offering support in areas like financial stability, they can play a key role in helping the person manage their condition.
  • Policy Makers and Employers: This research underscores the need for workplace accommodations and support systems for individuals with BPD. Flexible work arrangements, mental health resources, and educational support programs could help individuals with BPD succeed in these areas.

Conclusion

This research paints a detailed picture of how Borderline Personality Disorder impacts everyday life. From struggles in education and work to financial instability and relationship challenges, the effects are far-reaching and long-lasting. However, the study also highlights areas of resilience, such as the ability to maintain friendships, offering hope and a path forward for individuals with BPD.

By addressing both the emotional and practical challenges of BPD, we can help individuals not only manage their symptoms but also improve their quality of life and achieve their personal goals. This approach requires understanding, patience, and tailored support from professionals, loved ones, and society as a whole.

References:
Culina, I., Ranjbar, S., Maillard, P., Martin-Soelch, C., Berney, S., Kolly, S., André, J., Conus, P., & Kramer, U. (2024). Symptom domains and psychosocial functioning in borderline personality disorder. Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, 11, Article number: 10. https://bpded.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40479-024-00255-2

Zanarini, M. C., Frankenburg, F. R., Reich, D. B., & Fitzmaurice, G. (2011). Attainment and stability of sustained symptomatic remission and recovery among patients with borderline personality disorder and Axis II comparison subjects: A 16-year prospective follow-up study. American Journal of Psychiatry, 168(9), 895-902. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.2011.10071063

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